All too often in life, we focus on the negative. The "drama", the gossip... I'm as guilty as the next. When people ask me how my day is, I often respond with the negative before the positive, if there is a positive at all. A week ago, I found myself down in the dumps. Nothing was wrong with my life. Everything was going well, but I just couldn't shake this sad feeling. The music I was listening to was awful. Break up songs, man-hater songs galore. The shows I was watching weren't much better. I was having racing thoughts before bed and therefore having a hard time going to sleep. I couldn't shake this crappy feeling. I attributed it to the "winter blues". After all, the weekend before had been freezing, making any Vitamin D hard to come by. I realized I had spent too long focusing on the negative and the negativity was taking over my life. I'll admit, when it comes to personalities, I am more of a Negative Nancy that an Positive Patsy. It's something I've come to realize and want to work on 2017. My husband told me a story about someone he knew that decided the best way to transform their thinking was to, at the end of the day, write down three positive things that happened that day. It didn't have to be too extravagant (no life saving stuff), and it could be superficial (example: I had a good hair day). I took his advice to heart. I've spent the last week focusing on the positives and mentally noting three positives at the end of the day. Some of them have to do with the gym (not going to lie, many of them have to do with accomplishments at the gym), some of them have to do with work, and some of them just have to do with the way I looked. (I'm not afraid to say sometimes I can be vain, and I appreciate myself when I have a good hair day or my outfit is on point). On Friday the 13th, one of my wins was just surviving Friday the 13th without something bad happening. This has helped me realize that everyday has a positive. Everyday has negatives too, but I am choosing to focus on the positives than the negatives. Focus on the lifts I make at the gym, not the lifts I miss. Focus on the compliments I get at work, not the criticisms. I'm not living on this space cloud where I think the world is perfect, Lord knows it's far from it, but I"m choosing to focus on the good. This is especially trying this week, given the nature of politics and the country. I am fearful the negative is going to come out on Friday with people in general, but I'm going to choose to walk on my own little ray of sunshine and cast it aside. Everyday I get excited to think about my three wins. After even the crappiest of days, we all deserve three wins.
Haley Parler Moore
Charleston resident. Digital Marketer. Crazy Crossfitter. Bulldog Mom. Wife. Gamecock fan. Constantly clad in Lululemon.