When thinking about what word I wanted to model my year after, the only thing that came to mind was "moderation". If you know me, you know I like to give 150% into everything I do, and thus end up diving 150% into the project at hand. My world will revolve around said project and it will become an obsession.
While this is a healthy mindset for work and my career, it's not a healthy mindset for my life. I have a hard time turning off the "switch". Last year, I dove 150% into my new job, Crossfit, and just every day life. I pushed myself to see what my limit was. While it wasn't a bad thing, I certainly hit my limit, and many times when doing so, felt inadequate in the process. I tried too hard to be the best, forgetting in the process to enjoy the ride and learn from my mistakes. An error on the job, left me feeling like my whole life was a giant error. A bad Crossfit workout that day, would be put me in a bad mood for the rest of the day. Eating fast food would make me feel like I was so ridiculously unhealthy. This all led to a giant amount of frustration and anger towards myself and the ones and I loved.
That led me to where I am today, "moderation". The initial word came up when I was trying to drastically scale back my alcohol consumption. After going 21 days without a single drop of alcohol, and then having a couple drinks from time to time, I realized I was fully capable of moderation on that end. But what about everything else? How could I apply this word to my everyday life?
First, after reading a very inspiring piece from Holly Butcher, a 27 year old Australian woman, who recently passed away from cancer, I realized how truly short life is to stress and allow certain petty things to take over my life. It hit so close to home reading about someone, who was my age, pass away from a disease that any of us could get. I realized who cares if I had chicken nuggets today or drank a glass of wine because I had a rough day. I realized how very little it matters in life. This quote specifically punched me in the gut:
"You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.
Let all that shit go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more."
That's when it hit me, it's okay to live a moderate life. It's okay to enjoy things you love and to not stress out about them. I don't have to make everything 150% of my life. I can go workout without feeling like I'm competing against everyone else. I can bust my tail at work, but enjoy it and learn while I ago. I can leave to take a walk with my dog when work gets hard or the days start to get mundane. I have control over my life and I chose to live it moderately.
Is #20GreatTeen a thing? If not, we should make it a thing. So far 2018 is off to a tremendous start. (It's only been four days, so may be I should give it sometime...but who cares?!). I think I was one of the few who didn't think 2017 was that terrible either. It certainly had some low points, I struggled with some issues over the summer, but I was proud of myself for being able to turn those around and really end 2017 on a very positive note.
Anyways, I sit here blogging on what is now day two of our "snow day". I was pretty excited about the snow. It hadn't really snowed here since I moved here back in 2012. The last snow I saw was in January 2011 when I was at USC. After sliding on ice on a bridge and wrecking my car in 2011, I'm sitting this one out, comfortably in my pjs with my coffee at home.
If you can't tell already, one of my main goals for the new year is to be more positive. In the past the glass was half empty for me. I'm working to change that around. I mean I have a career that I love (I work from my Lululemon clothes everyday). I have a home that is well lived in. I can afford food on the table and to splurge every now and then. I'm at one of my healthiest and physically fit times in life. So what do I have to complain about? Sure the world has it's faults, my husband and I get in a tiff every now and then, but overall, I have what I need and I need to be grateful.
I'm also looking forward to becoming more of a leader in and out of the workplace this year. With each passing year, I become less and less of a "young" adult and more and more of an "actual" adult. (Scary, I know!) In the process, I have discovered things that I am truly passionate about and want to share with others.
One thing that I am passionate about is cryptocurrency. I spent the second half of the year learning and beginning to invest extra money into it. I truly see this as way to make a secondary income for myself and for other women out their. I see this as the path to financial freedom. I am hoping to launch a Women in Crypto meet up this year (stay tuned Charleston ladies!).
I hope everyone elses' 2018 is off to an amazing start! Let's all work together to make it #20GREATteen!
Anyways, here are some pictures from our "snow day". A lot of fun, but now I'm ready for summer!
Haley Parler Moore
Charleston resident. Digital Marketer. Crazy Crossfitter. Bulldog Mom. Gamecock fan. Constantly clad in Lululemon.